Somewhere Between Love, Life, and Friendship

I don't know about you guys, let's just be an agree to disagree. I do really want to write this in purpose to share my thoughts about this world. Especially, how this world-reality could affect our emotions, our ways of thinking, our social life, our dateline, our romances, etc. Remember what I have said, agree to disagree.

Two out of Three
In this world, we have to always face a situation where we should choose. Believe me, it sucks to choose. Because you can't choose all the options that are offered. For example, when you are offered to have a breakfast : Toast or Egg? You can't choose all of them. Well, maybe some of you could, but the main idea is to show you that we have to sacrifice one of the option. Later in this post, you will know when you can pick all of the options.

You could only choose two out of three; between Life, Love, or Friendship at this early. But when the time has come, you can choose all of them.

Be realistic, if you think you can manage well all of the them right now, I would say good luck. But in the end, you may sacrifice one of those things; either it's your life, your love story, or friendship. It doesn't seem concrete at the beginning. It will turn out after you realize that you lose something you can't change.

How to grow it back? If it is a person, it's not easy to make him/her back to you. Because when 'LOSE' is mentioned, it's mean it's gone. Yep, gone. But hey, there is a bright side from this lost. If it's not a person but it came from the part of yourself (your desires and passions), cheer up! You are possible to grow it back. Well, look deep inside yourself. You know what yourself need. Have a time for yourself, have fun, do some crazy things, and think that everything will be alright. Try new things that you never tried before. Believe me, if you do it right, congratulations you've just became the better version of you.

Patience does Matters
Remember my quote above? I did mention about 'time' right? Actually ladies and gentlemen, that's true.

This is the fact, you could only choose two from Life, Love, or Friendship. When the time is right, you will be able to choose all of them.

So, what do I mean by mentioning 'time'?

'When the time is right', I mean is when you meet your life-partner. Because he/she will become your life, your lover, and also your friend.

So, it's all make sense eh? It's all about patience. The question is, how long I should wait? I know that people vary on their patience level. So that's why God gave us different time to wait.

Some people are given a short time to wait, but some people don't. They have to wait longer. But it's worth waiting for. The problem come when they don't have any patiences to wait.

Underline the last sentence of it, especially on 'problem'. Refer back to previous chapter, that's the problem. For example when you choose Love and Life, than you may lost Friendship. Some of your friends may change due to it. On the other hand, when you choose Love and Friendship, you don't have a life. You don't even have a time for yourself, your college, your job, your health. Because you only do care about the other two. Then, how about Life and Friendship? You know the answer.

33.3%, Can I?
I don't think it's a good idea to choose all of them. (Oh damn it, blackout!) It's because you can't work all of them maximally. Ideally, you think you're doing good, but in reality, you're abandoning one of them that you don't even realize before they tell to you.

Don't be sad or depressed after you read my post. Well, this is only my opinion. But if I have to choose, I'd prefer to wait, or choose Friendship and Life. How about Love? *chuckles*
Love is the only thing in those options that we can't control, and understand when it will come. But friendship and life, you can find them everywhere and manage them well, then you'll get a happy life.

My reason why I choose to wait :

'When the time is right', I mean is when you meet your life-partner. Because he/she will become your life, your lover, and also your friend.

Earth is spinning around, life must go on.
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FRIEND ZONE

Yes, the post that I have been waiting for a long time. Many thanks to Christopher Zhou who gave me this inspiration.

Have you guys ever been friend zoned? Yeah that sucks and hard to tell your self what to do. Seems like every steps you take are wrong and lead to another problem with YOURSELF. Yes, yourself.
But it depends on why you're being stuck in a friend zone. Is it because (1) you're comfortable with it and really comfortable, or (2) you're pretending to be comfortable?
I will not tell you about option number (1), because I think most people don't have a problem with it. That means, you're really want to be her friend.The (2) problem is what I want to discuss here. Later on, I will share the solutions for the problem.

Friends or Lovers?
Sometimes we have a crush with our friend, even though we've already knew for a long time, but it could happen, couldn't it? Every morning when you wake up from your deep sleep, you think of her. Then, without you realize, you will always think about her until you met her. Your heart rate increases, and you feel so damn happy, nothing to worry about, although you will have an exam in the next one hour. 
Does she feel the same thing that you feel? Does she know what are you feeling right now? My suggestion, don't tell it too late. Tell her soon, that you have this feeling. Confess, and wait for her reactions. She may be surprised and doesn't know what she must do. You will have two answers here, (1)"Why do you suddenly tell me this?" (2)"I'm really sorry. You're the best thing I had in my life. But, I don't have love feelings toward you. I like you as a friend".
Option number (1) means that you're not friend-zoned. Congratulations! Now, approach her as a man, not as her friend, but still keeps your friendship, because believe it or not, your love line is determined from your friendship, and in the end you will have a happy ending with her. Your friend is also your love.

Life is Harsh. Too Harsh.
Option (2) means that you HAVE TO move on. You are not aiming for a friendship here. No matter what you do, or what you've done, I'm sorry, you've been friend-zoned. That means, you should not pretending you're okay when you see her with another guy. You should not pretending that you didn't think of her every minutes. You should not pretending that you're okay when you sacrificed your time, your self for her even though you can't be her's.

there's a saying, "Good guys finish last." ever heard of it? it shows how the better someone is, the less chance they have on romance.

She knows that you're a nice person, too nice for her. That means, you are perfect. She would think that you don't need her to fix you. There is no any reason for her to be there with you. Well, that's a reason.

a more negative view on this would be because they're that good, there's a subconscious insecurity, that they'd make their partner look bad

. . .

now what if they won't take you seriously? well there's a limit to everything, especially if you threaten the friendship they value so much

That's a problem when she is a person who values friendship so much. Friends mean everything to her.
I used to think that I can make this life became my ideal. I realized that I was wrong. This is real life, and life is too harsh. You must do what you must do, don't pretend as if everything is okay, and my this is what I want with my life, even though YOU ARE NOT OKAY WITH THAT. Leave, and never come back unless you've got those feelings under your control. You must be asking a silly question like this, "will I come back to her with the old me?". The answer is no. Both of you have changed, and you can't became what you used to be for her.
We can't blame our self or her. This is not a specific person's fault. The situation made the friend zone itself.
So, here is the thing, what you need to do in order to not in friend zone, if friendship is not what you are looking for.

that means maintaining the right amount of balance--knowing when to get close and to back off, when to be there and to leave them alone.

That is setting your direction. Accept the truth.

if you call yourself friend zoned, then realize it and do (or don't do) something about it. set the direction. take charge.

credits (thx bro!)

Problembh

Key-i-pi-ow. Apa itu kepo? Gw jelasin dulu satu hal sama kalian, kepo itu bukan makanan dan bukan nama hewan. Jujur dari awal gw denger kata kepo, gw berimajinasi tentang makanan yang terbuat dari sayuran dan rasanya asin-asin nendang. Bahkan gw sempet berfantasi kalau kepo itu sejenis kodok yang gak bisa berenang. Well, kepo itu bisa dibilang mau tau urusan orang lain. Kalau nggak tau urusan orang yang bersangkutan itu, dia bakalan penasaran maksimal.

There are some people who don’t care about other people business, but there are some who care. Menurut gw sih bagus klo emang kalian care sama masalah orang lain. Itu artinya lo bener-bener perhatian sama orang itu, tapi kadang ada masalah yang berada di lingkungan private. Mungkin dia bener-bener gak bisa share masalah itu ke orang lain.

To be honest, gw nggak terlalu perduli sama urusan orang lain. Apalagi sama masalah-masalah yang memang sepele tapi menjadi besar karena diurut sama Mak Erot. It is not because I’m a selfish or ignorant person, but let them be. Yes, let them be. You have your own life and your own problem. Mind your own business.

People are extravision. We have high curiousity about anything. Terus, siapa yang salah? Kita kepo kadang-kadang salah. Kita cuek juga salah. Well, I think I have the solution.

1. Jangan ceritain klo lo punya masalah di situs jaringan sosial apapun klo itu adalah masalah sepele yang lo sebenarnya bisa pecahkan sendiri. If you need a friend to share, ask directly. For your information, kalau kalian punya masalah pribadi, dan kalian update itu di facebook atau twitter, well believe me. You’ve just spread negative power. Actually, seorang teman bakal lebih seneng klo ada seseorang yang minta pendapatnya langsung  tanpa melalui twitter, atau facebook.
2. Kalau lo ngeliat temen lo lagi murung atau lagi diem, atau mungkin lagi nggak kaya biasanya, jangan dibawa ke dukun atau ke sirkus. Jangan dipikirin, karena semakin lo pikirin, lo bakal semakin penasaran, dan akhirnya lo ngegalau. Keep it in your mind, they don’t share their problems because they can’t, not because they don’t want to.
3. Kalau ternyata orang itu adalah orang yang paling lo care about, dan ternyata dia ngelakuin kasus nomer 1 dan 2, always keep it in your mind : “Every problem come with its solution. Keep believing in God, because He will guide you to find the solution.”

Believe me, gw pernah dapet kasus nomer 3 and it sucks. Tapi akhirnya gw yakin, kalo Tuhan itu selalu memberi solusi buat mereka yang mau mencoba nyelesain masalahnya. Jadi, nggak usah galau kalau ternyata orang yang lo sayang atau care lagi punya problem dan dia gak mau cerita-cerita, tenang aja he/she will be fine kok. Dan kalo emang lo care sama dia, lo harusnya seneng juga ngeliat dia bisa handle masalah dia sendiri.

(Kadang-kadang penulis secara tidak sadar melakukan hal nomor 1)

Chill out fellas!

Your Other Self, How 'bout that?

The memo was worked! Now I have so many ideas to tell, and so limited time to write the so many ideas in this so limited time. So, I decided to fulfill my promise first. If you still remember, gue pernah janji mau ceritain sedikit tentang masalah perbancian di hidup gue. Oke, gue parno sama banci (baca : bencong, read : sissy). Entah kenapa dan dari kapan gue parno sama yang berbau kaya gini. Bahkan kalau ada suara musik dari kejauhan, dan tiba-tiba waktu berhenti mendadak, gue udah tau bakal ada banci tampil dan gue langsung berdoa, berharap gue dikasih kekuatan invincible.

Sekitar sebulan yang lalu, gue ngalamin pekan terburuk dalam hidup gue. Yes, the worst week in my life. Gue disamperin banci 2x dalam seminggu, dan semuanya itu malem-malem.

I can't learn how to wake up properly

Ehem! I want to tell you a story. It's not about her, it's not about them, but it's about myself, it's about me, and it's about mine.

Since hundred years ago, I have a problem with my sleep. Yes, it's still be my problem until now. I dunno why I have this kind of very problematic problem (if it's not a problem, it's not problematic d'uh). Maybe this is a new kind of disease called Hard-to-wake-up Syndrome. If there are levels from 1 to 4, I will be at level 6. Well, you seemed not really understand how problematic this problem is, and I also have tried really-really-so-many things to cure this disease. Here they are my trials :

Hey, you got friends!

Sometimes when you feel that the world become so booooooooo~~~~ring, and we don't know what should we do.
Sometimes when you feel that you are so alone in this world, that makes the world so boooooooooo~~ring, you are extremely wrong. Even crazy people who lose their mind are not alone in this world.

Yes, we all have friend(s)

Don't you ever say that your life are so empty, and you feel so alone in this world. Because since you have friends, there is no "empty". Friends can always fill our day with thousand inspirational words. Friends can be your sunshine when it was raining out there. Friends always have their shoulder when you are crying (hmmm, it seems like a lyric). Friends can always make you laugh even you're in sorrow condition. Their words inspire you, their laugh make you happy, and friends always be there when you need them.

Let's makes some lo...ups! I mean, let's make some friends! xD