FRIEND ZONE

Yes, the post that I have been waiting for a long time. Many thanks to Christopher Zhou who gave me this inspiration.

Have you guys ever been friend zoned? Yeah that sucks and hard to tell your self what to do. Seems like every steps you take are wrong and lead to another problem with YOURSELF. Yes, yourself.
But it depends on why you're being stuck in a friend zone. Is it because (1) you're comfortable with it and really comfortable, or (2) you're pretending to be comfortable?
I will not tell you about option number (1), because I think most people don't have a problem with it. That means, you're really want to be her friend.The (2) problem is what I want to discuss here. Later on, I will share the solutions for the problem.

Friends or Lovers?
Sometimes we have a crush with our friend, even though we've already knew for a long time, but it could happen, couldn't it? Every morning when you wake up from your deep sleep, you think of her. Then, without you realize, you will always think about her until you met her. Your heart rate increases, and you feel so damn happy, nothing to worry about, although you will have an exam in the next one hour. 
Does she feel the same thing that you feel? Does she know what are you feeling right now? My suggestion, don't tell it too late. Tell her soon, that you have this feeling. Confess, and wait for her reactions. She may be surprised and doesn't know what she must do. You will have two answers here, (1)"Why do you suddenly tell me this?" (2)"I'm really sorry. You're the best thing I had in my life. But, I don't have love feelings toward you. I like you as a friend".
Option number (1) means that you're not friend-zoned. Congratulations! Now, approach her as a man, not as her friend, but still keeps your friendship, because believe it or not, your love line is determined from your friendship, and in the end you will have a happy ending with her. Your friend is also your love.

Life is Harsh. Too Harsh.
Option (2) means that you HAVE TO move on. You are not aiming for a friendship here. No matter what you do, or what you've done, I'm sorry, you've been friend-zoned. That means, you should not pretending you're okay when you see her with another guy. You should not pretending that you didn't think of her every minutes. You should not pretending that you're okay when you sacrificed your time, your self for her even though you can't be her's.

there's a saying, "Good guys finish last." ever heard of it? it shows how the better someone is, the less chance they have on romance.

She knows that you're a nice person, too nice for her. That means, you are perfect. She would think that you don't need her to fix you. There is no any reason for her to be there with you. Well, that's a reason.

a more negative view on this would be because they're that good, there's a subconscious insecurity, that they'd make their partner look bad

. . .

now what if they won't take you seriously? well there's a limit to everything, especially if you threaten the friendship they value so much

That's a problem when she is a person who values friendship so much. Friends mean everything to her.
I used to think that I can make this life became my ideal. I realized that I was wrong. This is real life, and life is too harsh. You must do what you must do, don't pretend as if everything is okay, and my this is what I want with my life, even though YOU ARE NOT OKAY WITH THAT. Leave, and never come back unless you've got those feelings under your control. You must be asking a silly question like this, "will I come back to her with the old me?". The answer is no. Both of you have changed, and you can't became what you used to be for her.
We can't blame our self or her. This is not a specific person's fault. The situation made the friend zone itself.
So, here is the thing, what you need to do in order to not in friend zone, if friendship is not what you are looking for.

that means maintaining the right amount of balance--knowing when to get close and to back off, when to be there and to leave them alone.

That is setting your direction. Accept the truth.

if you call yourself friend zoned, then realize it and do (or don't do) something about it. set the direction. take charge.

credits (thx bro!)

Epic Kiss (?)

Memang bener, kalo mau nulis itu harus butuh ketenangan. Gw udah buktiin. Selama gw nulis tulisan ini, gw berada di ruangan yang berisik dengan suara TV, air akuarium, dan suara orang lagi makan kerupuk. Alhasil, jadilah tulisan yang absurd dan gak ada nilai moralnya ini.

Oh iya, ngomong-ngomong gw baru aja dicium sama jupe. Buat kalian yang nggak kenal jupe, tontonlah bola. Soalnya disitu ada pacarnya si jupe main bola, namanya Gaston. Jujur, gw baru aja dicium sama jupe. Kok bisa? Ada deh. Ngeselin ya.

Jadi waktu itu Metro TV dateng ke Binus buat taping Talk Indonesia, semacam acara talkshow gitu tapi dalam bahasa Inggris. Host utamanya itu Dalton Tanonaka, pria besar dari Jepang, jago bahasa Inggris. Beda banget sama gw yang ngomong Inggris aja masih meler ingusnya. Satu lagi hostnya namanya Rahayu Saraswati, cakep, dan gw bukan tipe dia banget. Kalau diliat dari personality dia, tipe cowok dia itu pasti bule, atau cowok-cowok fitness yang kulitnya putih, dan biasanya bawa mobil CRV.

Guest host pada episode itu kebetulan adalah Julia Perez. Kalau kalian blm tau, silahkan googling dan kagetlah akan hal-hal yang kemungkinan akan terjadi pada anda. Gw ketawa jahat. Pokoknya dalam acara itu, gw bisa menanyakan satu pertanyaan yang emang sebelumnya udah gw siapin. Thanks to my friend Marcel, gw bisa dicium sama jupe.

Pas hari acara itu ditayangin, yaitu hari ini, gw dimention sama beberapa orang yang bahkan gw gak kenal. Ini nih beberapa contohnya :

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This day happens once in a lifetime I think. I'm so lucky.

Anyeong!

Too Super for a Day

Kemarin bener-bener jadi hari yang super banget. Super sekali. Mario Teguh pun kalah super. Bahkan, Superman aja kalah super. Saking kalah supernya, kolornya dia jatoh ke bumi pas dia lagi terbang, masuk ke ember cat warna hijau, jadilah kolor ijo. Trus kolornya dipake sama Hulk. Oh, ternyata Hulk kolornya warna ungu. Faktanya kemarin itu bener-bener sibuk seharian dari pagi sampe ketemu pagi lagi. Oke, gini ceritanya.

Matahari terbit, memancarkan sinarnya. Indah, hangat-hangat tahi ayam. Tapi matahari gak lembek. Aku siap-siap mau ke kampus, menuntut ilmu dan uang saku. Kunaiki sepeda motorku yang telah menemani perjalanan hidupku selama kurang lebih 4 tahun. Kuberi nama dia ‘Heli’. Kasian dia, setiap hari dinaiki, tapi gak pernah aku lamar. Kasian sekali. Tiba-tiba, alangkah tidak beruntungnya diriku, sesuatu terjadi pada Heli. Sesuatu banget yah. Rantainya Heli lepas dari mesinnya, sehingga menyebabkan si Heli daripada tidak bisa daripada jalan. Well, jalan sih bisa, tapi didorong. 

Akhirnya, ku dorong Heli sampai bengkel yang sudah buka jam 7. Ternyata yang udah buka jam 7 itu cuma warteg, toko besi, apotik, sama tukang bubur. Aku berinisiatif menitipkan Heli pada tukang bubur, namun ku urungkan niatku, karena takut si Heli dijadiin cakwe. Akhirnya, ada bengkel yang setengah buka, aku sangat bahagia. Bagai kejatuhan duren dari langit, berdarah-darah masuk rumah sakit, tapi susternya cantik. How lucky I am.

Setelah meninggalkan Heli berdua dengan montir berjanggut pelit, aku melanjutkan perjalananku menuju kampus. Jam di tanganku menunjukkan pukul 7.30, aku panik. Keringat bercucuran tiada henti, Ayu Ting-Ting masih salah alamat. Dengan segera aku mencari angkot terdekat yang sedang menunggu mangsanya. Tetapi aku takut. Aku teringat kejadian-kejadian di angkot yang sangat tidak mengenakkan sekali. Aku takut nanti tiba-tiba aku diperkosa lalu dijual ke ancol untuk jadi badut kukang. Tanpa pikir panjang, karena memang otakku tidak bisa berpikir panjang, aku naik juga itu angkot. Lima menit berlalu, aku sampai di kampus, lalu aku berlari menuju eskalator menuju ruangan dimana seharusnya aku harus hadir 25 menit yang lalu. Oke, sebenarnya gara-gara itu lab-skill, jadi gw gak boleh telat. Biasanya sih gw baru sampe kelas 1 jam setelah kelas mulai, tapi gara-gara ini lab gw harus buru-buru. Sayang absennya booooo.

Kelas demi kelas kulalui. Detik demi detik kulewati. Jam demi jam kuganti baterenya. Saatnya aku menuju Mampang guna ikut serta dalam tes TOEFL. Tepatnya di gedung jamsostek. Aku bersama temanku, Janet, lebih mirip orang desa yang baru pertama kali ngeliat gedung besar. Kami tes di lantai 20. Yang aneh dari tes ini itu pengawasnya. Ngomong Inggris dengan logat khas Indonesia. Gw sempet ‘hah’ beberapa kali waktu dia ngasih pertanyaan ke gw.

Jadi, begitulah kiranya bagaimana aku melewati sebuah hari yang super. Oh iya, benerin si Heli biayanya sampe 300 ribu. Hasilnya, si Heli udah gagah lagi kaya si Agung Hercules yang nyanyi Astuti. Yeaaaaaaaaaah....

In my opinion, sekali-kali kalau dikasih hari kaya gini gak ada salahnya. It could cure our boredom. So, jangan pernah mengeluh fellas! When there is a will, there is a way.

Super Sekali

XD

Success is not from Harvard

The sky was so bright yesterday. Birds sang songs. Cats slept all day long. Dosen-dosen pada males ngajar. Kemarin adalah hari pertama gw jadi tutor. Asik. Ketemu sama anak-anak baru yang pada manggil gw ‘kak’, berasa dihormati abis. Mulai sekarang gw harus membiasain diri gw dipanggil ‘kak’, soalnya sebelumnya gw harus kayang di atas signboard sevel dlu baru gw dihormatin. Tapi, kebanyakan dari mereka malah lemparin kacang.

Kemarin gw ngeh satu hal. Tentang Bill Gates. Waktu tutor kemarin gw kasih liat ke anak didik gw video Keong Racunnya Shinta dan Jojo. Oh bukan, video pidatonya Bill Gates yang bener. Ternyata dia itu drop out dari Harvard, dan dia adalah pemilik perusahaan microsoft tanpa memiliki gelar sarjana apapun. Dari situ gw sadar, kalau Binus jauh lebih baik dari Harvard. Terima kasih Bapak Rektor karena telah menerima saya yang suka ngupil ini di Binus University.

Bill Gates at his unyu time. Aaron Carter?

Jadi, sukses itu bukannya diraih dari gelar-gelar kita. Tapi bagaimana kita menyelaraskan ambisi dan pengambilan keputusan yang tepat. Ceilah. Walaupun pendidikan kita memang gak setinggi pohon yang ada di lapangan keraton Jogja, oh iya gw jadi inget satu hal. Bener gak sih kita gak bisa jalan lurus ke arah pohon itu kalau mata kita ditutup?

Back to topic, sorry tadi gw ngaco sebentar. Jadi walaupun kita gak sepintar professor-professor yang suka bikin pesawat, klo gw bikin pesawat kertas aja udah pasti jatoh langsung pesawatnya. Tapi, kalau lo punya keinginan, apapun bisa terjadi saudara-saudara.

Really?

 

VACATIOON

YEAAAAAAAAAH....!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
My last weekend was sooooo amazing. Guess what? I went to Tidung Island last weekend. The place are really amazing. The beach, trees, and the sea, they're so made of win! xD
I really had a great time there. Spent my time together with all of my friends, done crazy things, even I forgot to do that hand-lock trick to my friends. lol

Well, I want to share the video that my friend already made, this is a really great video with Nidji - Laskar Pelangi as the music. Well, enjoy!

It'll be nice to go there again,
together.

15 Basic Facts About Me.

Hey there, here I am writing to answer the 1st challenge on my 15 Days Challenge. Well, my 1st challenge is I must write 15 basic facts about me. Well, it's a basic facts, so I'll only write the basic right?
It's easy.
I think.
~

1. My name is Audi Eka Prasetyo. Yeah, I told my name. It's basic right?
2. I played soccer, basketball, volleyball. In short, I like sports.
3. White, black, and purple are my favorite. It used to be white, black, and blue, but then purple.
4. My favorite food is, err~ everything? lol
5. I usually spends my spare time with my friends, or with my laptop, playing games or do something pointless.
6. I wear big frame glasses. The one that ugly betty wears. But that didn't make me a nerd. I don't even a nerd. D'oh~
7. My blood type is an AB. Is it important that I told this?
8. I'm a casual guy. I wore t-shirt and jeans to college.
9. I really wanted a car so bad. Somebody kind enough to buy me one?
10. I have cats in my house. Most of them are too lazy to chase rats or moving objects. Are they really cats? I love animals by the way. xD
11. I love to sing, but...
12. I played drums, and guitar. But not too good at guitar. Am learning.
13. I'm not a tall guy, I am 165 cm tall, and that's not tall. So, should I say that I'm 165 cm short?
14. I'm really really talkative. You should prepare a couple of ear buds if you can't handle my talks. lol
15. (finally the last! Gosh, it's so hard) I love to watch movies! I can watch couple of movies when holidays.

Well, I take my words that say "it's easy" back. It's really hard to tell 15 basic facts about me. I can't even imagine how long will I take to write the 2nd challenge. Oh *shot*

Happy Writing

Have you ever being asked, "Why do you write blog?"
If the person was me, I will spend hours to answer that question. Well, that question was bothering me until now.

Usually, people write to express what's inside them. Inside their heart, their mind, their feelings, even their anger. Yes, sometimes people write to cool their anger, and we can't deny that.
But me? What's my purpose for writing? Well, the answer isn't as simple as I thought.
People write poem to express their feelings.
People write stories because they have imaginations waiting to be realized.
People write love letters because they want to express their love for someone they loved.
People write their assignment to get a high mark.
People write a job report because their boss tell them to do so.
But, do you know the similarity between those people?
They become happy after it.

Many things made me upset recently. I don't want to discuss about that right now but I'll tell you one. The one that made me really upset is the part-time job that changed into intern-job. Screw that. They don't know how I really excited for this job. Make my own money, and buy a lot of things with that. Once again, screw them.

Finally, I get the answer why I write. You know the answer, don't you?

Song works like a moodlets ring

I really want to say my BIG APPRECIATION for Bruno Mars.

Today, I watched Glee 8th episode and I was so never-happier-than-before. All the things like bride, flowers, suites, smiles, and especially the songs.

Somehow, that songs made a smile on my face, reminded me about how beautiful life will be. Maybe you wonder what are these songs?

R U in da Mood?

So many dust in here, isn't it?
Anyway, it has been a very long time since I posted my last writing here. Hmm, why? I don't know either. Even I already had a memo that noted every single ideas that come up to my mind, but I still don't get the mood to write in here. So, am I in the mood right now?

That is so a good question.

Simply, the answer is NO.
I have a trouble with my mood. Since last week, I started to get my mood off. Easily get angry, and hate people. Wait, wait. This condition also happened 2 years ago when I was on 11th grade. Yes, at that time I was so a bad temper guy. Got mad and angry easily, destroy things, speeding, and shouted dirty words. Y'know, I still don't get the reason until now. W-H-Y-?
I hate people. I hate crowd. I hate when they are ignoring me. I hate when they are made fun of me. I hate when they were lied to me. It's just not me.
I wonder when I can go back to my original self.
I want me.

I will give you a present if you can bring the old me back.
Or maybe, I should give myself a present so that my old me is going back to me?

.HELL.

The Past and 2011

Gue ngerasa kalau ingetan gue kuat kayak gajah.

"Kok gajah?"

Iya, kalau gak salah gajah punya daya ingat yang bener-bener kuat dan jangka waktunya lama. Gue masih inget apa yang terjadi tahun lalu sama gue. Mulai dari pengalaman yang sedih, gak enak, hina, nista, sampai yang gak mau diinget lagi tapi masih aja keinget. (nah lho, kenapa pengalamannya gak ada yang menyenangkan?)
Sebenernya, kalau pengalaman menyenangkan juga banyak. Tapi, menurut gue pengalaman yang menyenangkan lebih banyak ada di tahun 2009, yes happy moments with her =D

Oke, gue hampir bingung mau nulis apa disini. Gue mau cerita tentang apa ya? hmm, mungkin kesan dan pesan gue tahun 2010 dan resolusi 2011. Oke, sepertinya pesan itu gak perlu, cukup kesan aja.

Speaking about how I feel in 2010,